January in Amonines

Coming up in Amonines

February 18-20:        Weekend of Silence, still a few places available.

March 2-6:                 Reflection Week, still a few places available.

April 30-May 6:          Nâm Retreat of Silence


About the Reflection Week
The upcoming Reflection Week is designed to unwind and recharge your batteries. The programme contains reflection exercises, meditations and silence as tools to reflect on life’s questions.
You are invited to investigate and experience the transcendental reality of daily life; Overcoming uncertainties and gaining strength, based on a certainty that transcends truths and duality.
The Reflection Week can also be followed online. You will participate in all programme components and we help to create the right ambiance at home for a powerful experience.


January in Amonines

January started with the Nâm Retreat of Silence at two locations (Belgium and Spain). In Amonines we were with sixteen people, including staff and residents and we decided to divide the group in two, one group meditating upstairs in the shrine and the other group downstairs in the meditation room.



It is the first time we did this during a retreat, we therefore were very happy to hear that there was a strong feeling of connectedness from all the participants with each other and with the retreat in Spain. Someone even said: ‘Best retreat ever!’ The meditation room in Spain was kept available online all the time, which supported the experience of connectedness.


On the last day we got a wonderful surprise in Amonines, waking up to a beautiful, still, white morning.


A Nâm Retreat participant wrote the following testimonial online:


Asharum Amonines is for anyone who is in need of deep relaxation and wants to experience love and wonder about life, the surroundings and themselves. It is a place where you can recharge and it has this special quality that you receive what you need at that moment. A magical place that you must visit once in your life. Thank you very much, I will definitely come back for beautiful events such as the Weekends of Silence“.


After the retreat, Amonines was open again for regular visits.
One of our guests this month already comes since a long time in Amonines. For her Yoginâm and his energy in the house is very important. She also mentioned that the people in the house keep to themselves, enabling her to do the same. Having practiced this during her visits over the years, she can now bring this quality back into her daily life.
Another guest came for the first time to Amonines. She came for a yoga retreat and though she was actually very tired and slept a lot, it is remarkable how much she experienced. On arrival, she immediately felt at home. For her every room had its own atmosphere and, depending on how she felt, she chose a specific place to sit down. The yoga made her feel powerful and physically relaxed. To meditate was a new experience and asked a lot of energy, but it also brought her mental relaxation. A nice example she gave is that after the meditation she could understand a text that before she was not able to read. Finally, she described eating in silence as the best part of her stay. She is a slow eater and most of the time she doesn’t finish eating on time or eats too fast. Now she could eat in silence and at her own pace, leaving her feeling completely satisfied until the next meal.

We love to share this beautiful place with others and are open between Tuesdays and Sundays for regular visits throughout the year. We are quickly fully booked these days as we only have five rooms, but we are planning to create two extra rooms this spring!


Hope to meet you in the near future!

December in Amonines

For many December is a month of holidays and celebrations. We celebrate life during the Feast of Lesser Light on December 21 and this year we had a beautiful Feast, accompanied by an online gathering with Yoginâm. We like to believe that specially for this day the sun wanted to shine and pushed away the clouds.

We were also delighted to have a house full of people this month. Lately our visitors have been coming from America, Brazil, Turkey, France and of course Belgium and the Netherlands.

Major renovations we leave up to Asharum Nijar these days. However, we had a short visit from Goran who made a quick stop to repair the ceiling in our Arabic Room that was about to collapse. Satisfied with the repairs, but fully covered in dust, we had to clean the house thoroughly. Afterwards we took a walk to clean our lungs as well. We walked in white landscapes, changing from snow into mist, and from dense forestation to grasslands covered in frost. Winter provides every year a beautiful scene in the Ardennes.


2022 starts off with a fully booked Nâm Silent Retreat with Yoginâm; a very concentrated meditation programme in which the different instruments of Nâm are strengthening each other.

We have a lot of activities ahead of us like the Reflection Week in early spring when nature starts to bloom again. A reflection week combines a meditation programme with daily activities in the Asharum and moments of reflection. It provides the environment in which the instruments of Nâm can be explored in a natural, everyday context.

Grateful we are for being able to share this beautiful place again and again and especially now we experience stronger than ever the importance of a place where time can stand still for a moment to enable you to reconnect with your true nature.


“Coming to the asharum was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. I came in looking for silence and found so much more. The silence forced me to take a closer look at myself and be a true observer of my own thoughts. Big thanks to those who make such a place available”.



Wishing you beautiful holidays and a wonderful New Year!
Team Amonines

November in Amonines

In December Asharum Amonines is open and during Christmas and the New Year you are very welcome to join us!
The New Year will start with the Nâm Silent Retreat, which is fully booked in Amonines, online you can still join.




November in Amonines

In the beginning of November Louise and Irma came back from Nijar and Katelijn left for Nijar. Therefore the Asharum was mainly closed during the first half of November, except for one fully booked Weekend of Silence.
Just before Katelijn went to Spain, the single yoga lessons were expanded with a yoga retreat of three or five days. We had hardly finished the retreat’s text, when bookings began to pour in. With a mixture of Private Meditation Retreats, Yoga Retreats and requests for shiatsu massage, the second half of November was making up for the first half, being continuously fully booked.

You can find this Yoga Retreat through the following link:

You can find the single Yoga classes through the following link:

You can find the shiatsu massage through the following link:



For the upcoming period, we have developed a variety of activities to suit all tastes. New ideas and initiatives resulted in the following programmes:

Multi-day programmes, like the Reflection week, the Nâm Retreat and the Private Meditation Retreat can be attended online.

New is a Group Supervision every six weeks for those who participated in a programme before and want to stay active with the practice and principles of LivingNâm. These supervisions can help you realise a deeper integration of this vision of life and the instruments used in LivingNâm.

An Individual support programme for those looking for more personal support. Dealing with crisis in the private sphere and/or world crises that have an impact on personal life can be reasons for such an individual support.

Online Yoga classes to stay in touch with the different layers of being (the different dimensions of experience) in silence.

You can enrol for our online activities right here:



After enjoying a very colourful autumn now winter is approaching with expected early snow soon. However, we think we can keep enjoying our cup of hot chocolate at the ‘Chocolaterie’ with an extra blanket!


New perspectives

~ A text by Irma ten Brink inspired by the work of Yoginâm ~


New perspectives

As I wrote in my previous blog we are creative beings and we are creating our own world. Start dreaming about another world and the resonance will create another world.

In this blog I would like to elaborate more on it because it might be simple but is not as easy as it is simple.

We are the Cause of our own Consequence

This means it is not so much about who we are but what we are that matters. We create with what we are and that is mostly unconscious.

If we do not explore what we are we will, with our mostly unconscious dreams, start creating mostly just our projections. These projections are based on habitual programmes built up in our lives which are not all only beneficial. Also these projections are following individual needs and wishes mostly together with ideologies based on culture and tradition (and realise for a moment that our western culture is expressing at the moment mostly consumerism and a dualistic way of thinking built on an old guilt programme.)

Can you imagine a beautiful world?

Just ask yourself, can you imagine a beautiful world that also fills the needs of a Tibetan farmer, a western doctor, a Russian astronaut, a Persian musician, all children in Africa and a Dutch mother? And not to forget a cow, a bee, an oak, a sardine, a bacteria…?

While unaware with perhaps the best intentions we want to create something we think is good. But the world, as being an ecosystem, part of a galaxy and so on is so big and beyond our grasping, how can we possible begin to think we can know what it needs? How can we make a picture that includes all? And to make it small again, do we these days know still what we really need ourselves?

For example:
If I just look at my own life so far and how it was created this tells me a lot. I am right now living a way of living I could never have dreamed before. If I would have dreamed a life for myself consciously earlier and that would have come out it would not be as it is now, it would be much more limited because it was created with the mind of that moment which was more limited as my mind now and I would regret that (if I would be aware). This because my life right now is absolutely beyond my conscious imagination.

Also in the past I would (being unaware) have dreamed a life without suffering and difficult times. While it is exactly these times that formed and brought me so much and looking back there is not one moment I would want to have missed. Would I have put these difficulties in a conscious future dream? Probably not. Unconsciously yes I did.

Also to take into consideration

‘Whoever wishes for peace might with that wish automatically create war’, Or who wishes there will be plenty of food and riches for you, could that create perhaps for other life a lack? This is similar to the saying ‘Where there is light there is darkness’ a biblical saying.

So I decided already long ago to be careful about formulating my wishes. Because I also know that a wish that is really sincerely desired can come true, and that again refers to another wise saying ‘careful what you wish for’ or as Alan Watts (inspired by William Blake) says:“The Road to Hell is Paved with Good Intentions”.

I am not saying it is wrong to dream a beautiful world. Just be aware of the pitfalls and be conscious of the dual way of thinking from where it often starts. Just like the idea of a war that is intended to create peace. Peace will never come as long as you think in this way. You have to start thinking differently, start looking at life differently and start seeing with different eyes, actually become another being in order to start creating something else.

So what did create my life as it is now?

There is one dream I had as a child which still stands today and this is because it is very open and full of potential. If you would ask me as a child what I would want to become when I was older it was not a doctor or nurse or something, the answer was “I want to become a wise old woman’.

Also there was a longing to serve, I wanted to do something good in the world without knowing or filling in what that was. Later on I asked for Guidance to do that, realising I could not do it on my own.

This is actually a combination of Intent (become a wise woman), a longing to serve and an openness to Guidance which became the driving force which is gradually helping me get past my own projections, likes and dislikes and transforming my Habitual Programmes of Perception. I think it is this combination that has been given and still is giving direction to my ongoing creation. Here I like to dive deeper into these elements with you.

There is a different way of creating we can become aware of

It is really from the inside out that we have to change something and it needs a complete different mindset and orientation which is very new for most people.

Because it is natural for all living to thrive, living beautiful lives with our loved ones and be happy in life, this longing and wishing can be enough to create something beautiful and yes we should continue to long for this and thrive because it is natural like it is natural for a flower to grow towards the light.

However if on this way in life we do not explore our habitual programmes we can seriously get lost in our intentions and do harm with them unconsciously.

For example and to make this more concrete look at this typically western programme of wanting more than we actually need. Realise that this is a causal habitual programme of perception from which consumerism is a natural consequence.

Investigating these programmes is never direct, nor a therapeutic action.
It is within a way of living, in which Intent and Attunement are the basic instruments, that these programmes will come up and can be transformed.

The Transcendental Way

Living Nâm provides me with different and very powerful tools for creation that tranforms the above pitfalls and unconscious projections.

It is a way in which I gradually transform my unconscious disturbing Habitual Programmes of Perceptions into beneficial ones.

A way of living that is a very beautiful and powerful way to create true beneficial resonance. Resonance that will create a wonderful world I cannot with my conscious mind imagine anymore, that is beyond my grasp but I do can see that with enough people living such a way, a beautiful world that serves all can be created.

This is the way of ‘Attention in Remembering’.

Attention in Remembering

I can best envisage this by sharing an intimate contemplation with you while realising the experience crumbles down to meaningless words as soon as I write it down. Yet it may help and inspire you in your own search.
Recently in a meditation I had a realisation.

“I am the Essence of Essence.
And everything, every phenomena, every experience, every human being, animal, plant, bacteria, the earth, the glaxies are an expression of this Essence of Essence. So also sickness, disaster, war and suffering are expressions of this very Essence of Essence.

This Essence of Essence is not a something, and certainly not a something outside me, a something I can address by prayer and thought.
It is me as it is you,
I exist out of this Essence of Essence!
With my life I am giving it a human expression”

This realisation is not something that just comes up in me out of the blue. It is the basic principle of LivingNâm and I read it, in different words, time and time again in the different texts and books of Yoginâm. So realising it during meditation in a much wider sense than just rationally is a consequence of reading about it regularly and exploring and remembering it with the specific tools I use, and as such the realisation is very valuable to gradualy change myself into a different Cause.

Now going back to creating the world, the answer on how to do so lies in this realisation and by giving form to your life in such a way that you keep reminding yourself of this realisation as much, as deep and as often as you can.

With this realisation you start orienting yourself not to the phenomena of living but to where it comes from, to the Essence of Essence.

The stronger your realisation becomes, the stronger your orientation stabilises in something unchangeable, something that was always there, also before your birth. Something that is there right now and also in difficult and confusing times. And something that will be there still when you die. This realisation then becomes an Affirmation, a Certainty that has nothing to do with believing or knowledge. An Affirmation that will eventually become you.

In Oneness all ages unite Time loses itself in timelessness Past and presence and future Unite in a single instant
The everlasting now in all infinity Eternity within eternity Such is Oneness in you

Beings are reduced to dust When your manifestation Withdraws within itself Eternity is now
And now is eternity Evaporated are the distinctions Between yesterday and tomorrow All united in your Love

From ‘Oh Abbah – Songs for Lovers’ by Yoginâm

This orientation becomes a constancy and a Certainty you start to rely on without a need to understand and grasp it. It will grow a trust in you and it becomes something you can hold on to while everything else can fall apart. Because realise that an accident could happen any moment and your health is gone, or your house and wealth, your loved ones and so on, nothing is permanent except that which is always there, that which in spirituality is often referred to as the Transcendence of living.

It is in this Transcendence where we can find answers, Trust, Love and Certainty. It is also in this Transcendence where we can truly contribute to a beautiful world!

We call this shift in orientation the shift from Soul to Heart.

The Breath

“Millennia of spiritual investigation has proven that Attention in Remembering is the best approach. Wisdom does not emerge from the effort of learning, it spreads by itself like light in a dark room when the shutters are opened”.

From ‘The Book of Nâm’ by Yoginâm

The Breath is a powerful tool given by Yoginâm himself which opens these shutters. This tool is so powerful because it is beyond our knowing and grasping.
The Breath is the ultimate tool of Remembering ourselves of the Essence of Essence of which we cannot know what it is, nevertheless we can Remember!

“The Breath is the instrument that facilitates Remembering and prevents it from deteriorating in beliefs and opinions distorted by the ‘likes’ and ‘dislikes’ of our habitual programmes of perception”.

From ‘The Book of Nâm’ by Yoginâm

The invitation of this blog is finding beauty in everything

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder they say.
Aspire to become a Beautiful Human Being by searching for the Essence of Essence in everything.

Learn to whiteness the phenomena as expressions of this Essence of Essence with practising the Breath.

Once you start seeing in everything, everyone, and in all situations the expression of the Essence of Essence, you will naturally start seeing beauty. A kind of beauty in which ugliness is naturally transcended.
Beyond judgement, projections, likes and dislikes you will enter a state of Awe and Wonder.

With this resonance of Awe and Wonder you become a Beautiful Human Being and you contribute in your modest way to a naturally beautiful world full of potential and beyond your comprehension.

Because Yoginâm has said it so many times: “You are the Consequence of your own Cause” Take up this invitation and become a beautiful Cause with which you will create naturally a beautiful Consequence both individually as well as collectively.

This is my way of dreaming a beautiful world and LivingNâm gives me all the tools and inspiration to explore and live this way of living.

Explore with me and discover it yourself!

Thank You

September 14, 2021

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Selective Silence

~ A text by Yoginâm ~

Listening to music in a hall, together with other people, is a very different experience than listening to the same music at home. This is not because of the auditive quality of the music, because recordings may have a better quality than a live concert. Something else is happening. In the same way people gather in order to hear a speaker, whereas the message could just as easily be distributed on paper or in mail.

The Causal Link

What is happening in gatherings is the activation of the causal link. The causal link is what I have also called Soul. It is that unconscious dimension of our being that determines what we are. It determines the way we experience ourselves and in reflection experience life. Establishing a causal link is stronger and as memory more durable, than absorbing some information from paper.

Silence in a group

In human communication the causal connection is the only thing that matters. In the way the apes are fleeing each other in company, we talk. The content of what is talked about is secondary to the talking itself. The talking is a mean through which a causal connection is established or re-established. A silence in a group of total strangers does not feel uncomfortable because there is no expectation of a causal sharing. Neither does silence with people you know very well feel uncomfortable because when the causal sharing is strong it does not need to be reaffirmed. Silence in a group of acquaintances is however often awkward because there is a natural inclination to affirm the causal sharing.

Causal sharing and talking

When you explore LivingNâm you may come to a point in which you become aware of the crucial importance of the causal dimension for what you are and consequently for how you experience the world. When you do so, you will start realizing in what way a lot of talking is actually disturbing your causal sharing.

Degeneration to a comical activity

Some people who live together may want to explore silence, this however often degenerates in the comical activity of writing notes to each and even sometimes entering extensive written discussions. Such choices generate the wrong resonance and they activate arrogance and ego-eccentricity.

The university of knowing yourself

In exploring LivingNâm, knowing yourself is not a matter of discovering all your peculiarities, characteristics and hidden programs. Such knowing are the preliminary steps, it is like the primary school. The university of knowing yourself is the gradual awareness that there is nothing to know about yourself, and that in true knowing this self annihilates. From searching for many answers to your single question of knowing yourself, you will arrive at realizing that there is only one single answer to all your possible questions. This is called wisdom.

Living in Silence 

Living in Silence is a powerful tool. It is however only appropriate for hermits and for instance for specific retreats in which you observe silence in a group for a specific period of time. When Living in Silence is applied during a retreat in which you interrupt ordinary living it has a great transforming capacity, particularly because afterwards you have to resume your ordinary life again.

Selective Silence

For those who are seriously involved in the search for Transcendental, spiritual Living, and for those who involve themselves in LivingNâm, I want to introduce the powerful instrument of Selective Silence.

The Principle of Selective Silence

The principle of Selective Silence is rooted in the nature of experience and in the pivotal importance of the causal, or Soul, dimension for how we experience. Our life, our death and our post living is determined by the way we share in the causal dimension of being. I have often compared this causal dimension to a garden of which we are the gardener. The causal dimension ‘happens’ outside our conscious field, we can only tend to it in an indirect manner.

The purpose of Selective Silence

We manage the garden of our causal dimension by managing our resonance. Involving in too much senseless verbal communication is disturbing our causal connection because talking is an activity of the Mind dimension, consequently talking keeps us attuned to the conscious mind dimension. This may confuse and even disturb our causal sharing.

When in the search for Transcendental, Spiritual Living we are exploring the true nature of experience we will gradually become aware of our own transcendental nature in which our causal sharing is much more important than our conscious activities. The gardening of our causal garden becomes paramount, only then will the realization in Abbah* emerge. Selective Silence is both a consequence of increased awareness and it is an instrument for activating the awareness of the true nature of our being.

The Practice of Selective Silence

The practice of Selective Silence is to employ silence in an active way. In no way should Selective Silence be linked to a rejection, an escape or on imposing your choice of silence on others, because that would generate the wrong resonance and it would make Selective Silence useless.

Selective Silence is a choice whether or not to restrict verbal communication. Verbal communication may at times be necessary in order to share relevant information. It may also be something that is socially required, when you are out shopping or when you meet acquaintances. The choice to restrict verbal communication is made in the realization that causal communication is much more essential and at times much more effective than verbal communication. In Selective Silence you do not reject the other, nor do you ignore the other, the opposite is true. In Selective Silence you enter in a closer communication with the other than in verbal communication, because you actively open yourself to the causal dimension in which you both intimately share. Selective Silence is therefore a more intense way of communication than verbal communication.

Selective Silence is valuable when it is rooted in a choice to restrict verbal communication to what is necessary. For instance you may acknowledge something that somebody says in a friendly way with a few words. You could also enter a conversation in which you feel the need to share your viewpoint on the matter, while it does not really matter for the actual outcome, particularly when it is only an exchange of opinions. Expressing your opinions about matters with which you are not directly linked in activity, is always and exclusively a demonstration of ‘self-embellishment’ . Self-embellishment is obscuring our causal sharing because it is centered in the ‘I’ illusion.

Chit-chat is always an exchange of opinions. It is generally a discussion about likes and dislikes. Once you realize in what way this affects your causal sharing, it should be a natural decision to stop wasting your time, even if it seem to provide satisfaction. Serving and sharing are natural attributes to people who realize their transcendental nature. Your serving and sharing is obstructed by verbal communication and is only carried by means of the causal component. In Selective Silence you merely concentrate on the causal component and you restrict the verbal aspects to a minimum.

Selective Silence is a choice that you make

Selective Silence cannot be imposed on others, you cannot forbid others to talk with you. This is not what Selective Silence is about. This would generate the wrong resonance. Selective Silence is a choice that you make. It is your choice about how to react to the communication of others. It is your choice whether you enter in a long discussion about your points of view or whether you acknowledge the other’s point of view with a friendly nod. You should realize that Selective Silence is useless as a tool when in any way it involves unfriendliness or disregard of others. Selective Silence is not about less communication it is about better and more intense communication.

Complete and Selective Silence

A group of people who live together or who share some time together may decide to observe complete silence for a particular period of time. Such a complete silence is selective in the way that it is based on an agreement that all the participants agree upon beforehand.

* Abbah is a revealed sound. It is not a name because there is nothing that can be named. It is not defined as something. The sound when expressed relates to an infinite essence that is the core of being. This essence emerges with the realization that human rationality and the human need for understanding veils it, as understanding itself is of Abbah. We can understand the ‘how’ of living. The ‘that’ of living is beyond understanding because the understanding itself is the movement of living. The sound Abbah indicates that mystery.